“Thank you for believing in me.”

I’ve been told this by a couple of friends. No thanks were needed. I just wished they had believed in themselves. I understand that being in the middle of chaos that it can be difficult to maneuver through the corn maze. Sometimes, we all need someone to either help guide us through or just believe in us to give us the strength to get through it ourselves. When our world is spinning before our eyes, we need grounding to slow it down. The odd thing is that it is easier to believe in someone else than to believe in ourselves. I’m guilty, myself.

Speaking as the one who has a difficult time believing in myself, I can see how that light at the end of the tunnel is faint. I can see how you don’t see the lining as silver. The glass is always half empty. Things appear to come easier to others. Things work out for other people, just not you. If a problem or a dream is presented to you by a friend, the solution or reality is so clear! It’s easy to hype that friend up or give useful advice. Why don’t we heed our same suggestions? Why must we self-sabotage or reject our own successes and dreams?

Fear is a powerful force. It prevents us from moving forward, from letting go, and from growing. Fear stops us from getting off the merry-go-round of turmoil. It keeps us dizzy and sick to our stomachs. What is it that we fear? Failure? How can you fail if you don’t try? How can you fail at something you’ve never done? If the dream doesn’t become a reality, if your idea doesn’t come to fruition,  did you fail? Not really. You are no worse off than you were before. You actually come out ahead. How? You came out on the other side with a new knowledge. You now hold something so valuable. You hold the knowledge of what was tried and didn’t work. You know what not to do next. You made that first step, possibly a second, and now have the power to rebuild what comes next. And, once again, it is up to you to either stay standing on your step or to move forward.

Belief in oneself is an idea that was placed in your mind by someone or something. Some time in your life you had someone plant that seed. Whether it was a “you can do anything you set your mind to” or “no, let me do that because I’m stronger than you”, that encouraging or discouraging seed was planted. From that moment and throughout our lives, we watered those seeds. And as the saying goes, ‘We either grew flowers or we grew weeds’.

We should all cultivate the soil of our minds. We need to use our own miracle grow to encourage the flowers of positivity to bloom. And, we need to round up those weeds that are slowly suffocating our self worth, self esteem, and self love. We need to be a bit more forgiving of ourselves. The words that we so selflessly say to others need to become our own mantras. We don’t need to stop saying, “I believe in you.”

We need to start saying to ourselves,  “I believe in me.”

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