Human touch. No, not THAT kind! Get your mind out of the gutter. A simple hand shake, or even better, a big hug is what I have taken for granted. Though, the other kind of human touch would be nice right about now. Ha! But, I digress. I miss the physical touch of another person.

I’ve never been a cuddly, snuggly type of person. I admit to that. I can and will snuggle a child or an animal for hours, but another adult is more difficult for me. In my mind, I start thinking, “Has it been too long? Do I let go now? Are they uncomfortable yet?” I never know the “appropriate” timeframe to hold a hug or to snuggle.

In one of my recent past more intimate moments, the person said, “Girl, I’m trying to pull you into me.” He wanted to snuggle with me. I did tell him that I wasn’t good at it and was not used to it. His response was, “Well… I’ll get you back used to it.” That stuck with me. I can’t say why, but just the fact that someone wanted and was willing to help me through it meant something to me.

Being in self isolation since March 16, 2020, has me missing physical touch. Again, not the intimate type as much as the feel of another person, in general. I wasn’t a very big social butterfly. I was more of a one on one connection type person. I enjoyed the quiet conversations and laughter. I enjoyed the focus I would have solely on that one person. It could be a girlfriend over at my house or out to dinner, and being able to give them my undivided attention is something that I miss. Being able to hug them bye is something that I miss.

So many miss the hair salon (which I’m glad of because that’s my profession), many miss the gym. Some people miss getting together in groups for cookouts. People miss going out to the movies or out to eat. I admit, I do miss going to restaurants, too. There’s so much in socializing that we all didn’t give much thought to, until recently.

As horrible as this Covid 19 pandemic is, it has shown us how important the little things are. It is allowing us all time to spend time with our families. It is giving workaholics a much needed break. It has had single people thinking about things that they have kept themselves busy to avoid thinking about. It has made the world slow down and reset. Some people will grow closer after this. Some will learn things about their family member. Some it will, unfortunately, cause strains that will push them apart. It also makes people, like myself, to actually miss other people.

For me, when I am able to resume my life like it was before, I will dole out hugs more openly and readily. My friends will never question what they mean to me. And, if that one person agrees to see me again, I will actively, absolutely, and willingly snuggle with him.

#itsatamithing